10 Reasons Revenge Sucks: Why You Shouldn’t Take Vengeance

Most of us know that biblical teachings frown on vengeance. Those teachings urge people to allow a higher power to handle things instead of seeking revenge on other people. Not everyone believes in a higher power, though, so let’s pretend we’re all non-religious. These are some legitimate reasons not to focus your time and energy on “getting revenge” on other human beings:

1. You may not know all the facts.

The object of your revenge plot might not have done anything with malicious intentions. Thus, it’s not exactly fair to punish that person because you feel hurt or jolted. Furthermore, you might not have the whole story behind the action(s). You may only have someone else’s half-truths or manipulated nuggets of information. Those shouldn’t be enough to substantiate a revenge campaign.

2. It might backfire on you.

Revenge has a way of backfiring on people, especially if it’s not in their nature to be vengeful. Therefore, you might find that your attempts to ruin another person come back to bite you when you least expect it. Even if you are a “revenge expert,” you could find yourself answering for it at a later time.

3. Your revenge “punishment” might be unfair.

Emotions have a way of making revenge punishments unequal. That’s why it’s best to have a neutral party handle your disputes. Otherwise, you could implement a plan to ruin someone’s entire life—and end up ruining several innocent partys’ lives—over something that deserves much less as a penalty.

4. The other person might have already “paid” for the incident.

You can’t see what another person goes through. Thus, he or she may have already received “karma” or some universal punishment for whatever offense you believe you suffered. Anything more than that is just plain overkill, and it makes you look 100 percent evil and obsessive.

5. You give your energy to evil entities.

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Self-implemented vengeance is wickedness, and you give your energy away to evil entities every time you engage in it. It doesn’t make you a stronger and more powerful person as you might think. It depletes your soul until there’s nothing left of the person you once were. In other words, it devours you.

6. That other person gets to rent space in your head.

You have to be highly focused on another person to think of elaborate plans to ruin his or her life. That’s a bona fide obsession, and it’s not good, bro.

7. You will never be satisfied.

Getting so-called revenge will not make you feel any better about the “offense,” and it won’t bring back anything you’ve lost. In fact, you’ll probably feel angrier and crappier if your revenge tactics don’t work, and the other person thrives anyway.

Then you might embark on another mission to ruin that person because you don’t feel “justified.” You might fail again because of the sheer wrongness of it all. Then you’ll be angrier and more determined to partake in even more wicked acts the next time. Please see: you give your energy away to evil entities.

8. You’ve done wrong too.

Every person on this planet has done wrong of some kind. You have no right to play judge and jury unless you are an actual judge or jury member at the time. Additionally, you could be wrong about everything you think you know.

9. It’s a horrible way to live.

Life has a lot to offer, and it’s sad to waste yours on vengeful pursuits. Maybe you should consider letting it go, forgiving the other person, and making the most of the life you have now.

10. There are healthier ways to thrive.

Being happy and not thinking twice about the person you feel has wronged you is a healthier and more passive way to “get revenge.” You might not get to rub anything in their face or see them suffer, but you will feel good about your own existence.

It takes much more strength to rebuild and not take revenge than it does to involve yourself in pettiness and wickedness. Consider taking the more respectable path the next time you think about punishing someone.

Should You Risk Getting Rejected?

One day, you might have to risk getting rejected to pursue someone or something you want. It might be a relationship, job, friendship, educational pursuit, or something else. Should you do it?

And risk getting rejected? Hell to the naw.

That’s what the former me would have said. I was a firm believer in the NOPE method of going after stuff. I would never put myself out there if I thought there was any chance the other party would reject me. NEXT! Sure-things were always much safer, but they typically weren’t the best situations.

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Rejection isn’t always a negative or bad thing, though. People can decline what you offer them for many reasons:

  • They’re taken.
  • They’re not dating at all.
  • They’re busy.
  • Their friends/family members pressure them to diss you.
  • They’re still hurting from a previous relationship.
  • You’re not their type.
  • You don’t wear designer clothes or faux hair.
  • You don’t have the same interests or do the same things.
  • Your breath stinks.
  • You’re ugly to them.
  • They like somebody else more.
  • You intimidate them.
  • They don’t think they’ll make you happy.
  • They don’t think you’ll make them happy.
  • You’re not beautiful/intelligent/strong enough.
  • You’re too beautiful/intelligent/strong.
  • You be writin’.
  • Your goals don’t align.
  • Your maturity levels are different.

You get the picture. There are more than 100 reasons another person might not entertain you, and some of them might be good for you. But you’ll never know if they’ll reject you or not if you never say how you feel.


A job might not want to pick you up for a ton of reasons, too:

  • You’re too expensive.
  • You’re outspoken.
  • You’re not phony.
  • You’re too phony.
  • You look like you fit a stereotype.
  • You seem like you’re rebellious.
  • You don’t match the culture.
  • You’re too independent.
  • Your values or beliefs don’t align with somebody else’s.
  • Someone else was more qualified.
  • Someone trolled you on a job reference.
  • You’re overqualified.
  • You’re underqualified.
  • You be writin’.
  • XYZ “intangible” reason.
  • The interviewer just wasn’t feeling you.

But you will never know whether that employer will reject you or not if you don’t complete the application and talk to them.

A rejection is not the end of the world. It just means you have to set your sights on something or someone else. In doing so, you could be dodging a bullet and moving closer to what The Almighty has in store for you. That rejection could be a form of protection or correction, but if it isn’t, so what? You’ll live.

Today I believe that if you really want something, you should go for it. At worst, you’ll get rejected hardcore, but you don’t need to reject yourself because of it.